Posts tagged “power struggles”

A woman with curly hair wearing a green sweater sits on a teal couch, listening attentively and gesturing with her hands while a young boy in a striped shirt reads to her from a white book. The background features a bookshelf and framed botanical art.

To Bond With Your Kid, Tsabary Says to Stop Trying to Control Them

"It's only 10 percent what the child is doing and 90 percent what the parent is doing."

October 12, 2026

An illustration in a cozy, sunlit living room shows a father kneeling on a patterned rug, facing his young daughter who is standing with her arms crossed and a stubborn expression. The father, with short dark curly hair, a beard, and a green knit sweater, has his hands open in a welcoming, gentle gesture as he looks at her calmly. The little girl, with short dark hair in pigtails and a mustard-yellow dress, stands with a firm, resistant posture. In the background, a white wall features a framed botanical print and a hanging macramé plant holder with a succulent, while a small side table holds a potted plant on the right. Soft natural light streams in from a window on the left, creating a warm and comforting atmosphere. The illustration style is flat, modern, and cozy.

Counterwill: Why Kids Say No (and What Gordon Neufeld Suggests You Do)

Your child says no to the very thing she wanted a second ago. Gordon Neufeld calls it counterwill, an automatic resistance to feeling forced, and four small shifts can ease the daily standoffs.

October 6, 2026

An illustrated interior scene of a cozy living room in a warm, muted color palette. A father with curly dark hair and a beard sits cross-legged on a patterned rug, looking lovingly and smiling at his young son. The son is sitting nearby on the floor, holding and putting on his shoes, looking up at his father with a happy expression. The background features a sofa table with a framed family photo, a potted plant, a bookshelf filled with books, and a window letting in soft light. The style is a flat vector illustration

Shefali Tsabary research

The Power Struggle Was Never Really About the Shoes

"It's only 10 percent what the child is doing and 90 percent what the parent is doing."

October 4, 2026

Posts tagged “power struggles”

To Bond With Your Kid, Tsabary Says to Stop Trying to Control Them

Counterwill: Why Kids Say No (and What Gordon Neufeld Suggests You Do)

The Power Struggle Was Never Really About the Shoes

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